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Messy Holiness of Family Life - Weekday Homily Video

Messy Holiness of Family Life - Weekday Homily Video

Strengthening family unity  |  Celebrating family life

"This little Band-Aid doesn't just cover scraped knees—it's a sign of God's mercy in your home. When Mom kisses a boo-boo, when Dad stays up late helping with homework instead of scolding over bad grades, when a sister shares her favorite toy without being asked—that's spiritual first aid. These are the moments when your family becomes a living Gospel."

The Messy Holiness of Family Life

A woman recently wept in my office: "Father, I love my 93-year-old mother, but I'm so tired. The constant care, the lack of gratitude—I don't know how much longer I can do this."

I told her about Mother Teresa cleaning the wounds of lepers who sometimes spat at her. When asked why she did it, she'd count on her fingers: "I – do – it – for – Jesus."

 

 

In today's Gospel, Jesus flips our expectations: "I desire mercy, not sacrifice" (Matthew 9:13). He’s saying:

  • That patient sigh when your toddler spills milk again? More precious than a perfect Rosary.
  • That hug after a fight with your teenager? Holier than a hymn sung in tune.
  • That cold cup of coffee because you tended to a crying child first? A sacred offering.

Mercy in Action: Your Family’s Daily Practice

Mercy isn’t a feeling—it’s a choice we make 50 times a day:

  • When you bite your tongue instead of saying "I told you so"
  • When you fold laundry that’s not yours with a prayer
  • When you let your spouse sleep in even though you’re just as tired

This is how we fulfill what the Catechism teaches: "Worship becomes mercy" (CCC 2100).

 

Why God Made Families His “Mercy Boot Camp”

1. Repetition Builds Saints Like manna in the desert, mercy is gathered daily—not in grand gestures, but in the 10th bedtime story read with love.

2. It’s Personal It’s easy to be kind to strangers. The real test? Showing mercy to the person who knows exactly how to annoy you.

3. It Changes the World Every "I forgive you" at home weakens the culture of anger outside it.

 

Your Family’s Mercy Challenge

This week, try this:

1. Spot One Mercy Moment Daily

  • Dad working late? Leave his favorite snack out.
  • Sister moody? Offer to do her chore.

2. Whisper as You Act "I do it for Jesus."

3. Share Before Bed "Today, I saw mercy when…"

 

This is your family’s mission. Every act of patience, every stifled complaint, every exhausted "I’m here for you" is a Band-Aid on the wounds of the world.

 

Let’s Pray: "Jesus, Physician of Souls, make our home a hospital for sinners. Help us see You in tantrums and tired eyes, in messes and misunderstandings. May our family stick together like this Band-Aid of Your mercy. Amen."

 

Go be God’s mercy—one sticky, imperfect, beautiful act at a time.

 


  • Today’s Readings

  • Father Pinto's inspirational homily was recorded live during Mass at the Father Peyton Center this morning. You can view the Mass (and the Rosary at the 30-minute mark) on the Family Rosary YouTube page.

  • To join the Rosary and Mass Livestream, visit the Family Rosary YouTube or Facebook page at 11:30 a.m. Eastern, Monday – Friday. Consider inviting others to join too! (*If you are not a member of Facebook and a signup window appears, simply select the X at the top of the pop-up message and continue to the livestream.)

About Father Pinto Paul, C.S.C.

Father Pinto Paul C.S.C., ordained a priest in the Congregation of Holy Cross in 1999, worked with tribal populations in northeast India as a missionary for ten years. In 2010 he came to the US for further studies. While working as a campus minister at Stonehill College, he assisted pastors in local parishes, led seminars and workshops for teachers and students in the US and earned a master’s degree in Educational Administration from Boston College and a Ph.D. in Educational Leadership from Lesley University, Cambridge. He is currently working as the International Director of the Boston-based Holy Cross Family Ministries with missions in 18 countries.